Being Open to Love

Dear soul, it has been a while since we spoke, and I hope all is well in your life.

Today I am reminded that love always lives within us when we realize we can be the source from where it comes. We never need to be closed off to love or try to avoid the inevitable pain that comes from loving others when we perceive hurt in their actions or find disappointment and soul crushing hurt from rejection. When we rely on ourselves and find we are the source of our own happiness we can whether these storms and maybe find the truth that we had unrealistic expectations for another human being for they are not a divinity, nor can we expect this.

Recently I have been reliving and revisiting a lesson I thought I had learned and that was to never lessen myself or be less than to keep someone I love in my life. In doing this I place too much pressure on the other to be the source of my joy and happiness. I lessen who I am and live my life according to what others expect of me. This is not good for either of us.

I find in doing this I place a majority of self-worth into the hands of another taking that power from myself and when things derail, I am not strong enough to stand in my truth.

I am learning I should never (I do not like using the word “should” but that is a societal conditioning in the new age movement but should works here) close myself from love but learn to love myself enough so others do not have to, and it is a bonus in life when they do love me.

I am relearning a lesson I thought I had learned well and took me years to master before! Only to find I am on the merry-go-round once more with the lesson revisiting me. I am grateful that I am learning it quicker this time and this time I see the unfairness I place on another to be the source to who I am.

I am Dear Soul truly beginning to see and know on a deep level that it is me who needs to learn and not the other. I am the source of my joy, my happiness and in turn I am the source of my discontent, rage and sadness which all leave me to close down and become less than as a person. As long as I hang unto, wail and rail at what I see is unfairness the more I step away from the possibility of who I can be. This is not to say you do not feel these things because you must. If I had not felt my way through, spoken to others and sought comfort I could not see the truth that has dawned for me today.

I am here to love and find joy in life but to find that I must have the full experience and that includes what we perceive as the darker ones; the ones we do not want. If life was all sunshine and rainbows, it would be a false and unrealistic way to live setting us up for a great hurt. If it is all hurricanes and storms, we are not even allowing the possibility of the solace and happiness of love. In either situation we are one dimensional, denying ourselves the possibilities to find what we seek.

In loving there will be days of hurt, there will be days of great joy, there will be days of contentment and discontent. It is in how we live and respond to each one that builds our resilience to never give up. To always show up and show love, even when we hurt. The fact we feel the hurt and are willing to love helps our love to grow. We need all experiences to become who we are destined to be. It is learning to live life without shutting down. It is here that we find a balanced and harmonious life. We would not be having a human experience of life if we did not allow ourselves to experience life it all! What would be the point to life remaining closed off, bitter, sad and blaming everyone else? We all make mistakes. We are all perfectly imperfect. How can we accept another’s imperfect love if we do not accept our own imperfect self-love first?

I say feel it all, live it all but always come back and find your ability to love who you are in the moment regardless of what and who you think that is. Love yourself regardless of perceived mistakes! It is here in this quagmire of life where true personal growth happens. It is in self-love that we find our ability to love our fellow companions in life and to love humanity itself. In finding self-love we find the ability to move forward even though our soul may hurt for a while.

We are learning that life’s disagreements are an invitation to find love regardless of our differences and because of them. I want to love and grow by understanding we are not all the same and this is what adds color to life, and it is in where my color merges with yours that something new begins, an invitation to life and love. I want to see what color we create together for this world and what we can bring when we remain open when all we want to do is close down.

Until next time

In love and light

Rebecca

xox